Episode 51: Working Through Your Grief with the Co-Founder of Modern Loss, Rebecca Soffer
Updated: 5 days ago
I’m joined by the Godmother of Grief, the Co-Founder of Modern Loss, writer, speaker, and big inspirer of SSFYL, Rebecca Soffer. When Rebecca was 30, her mother was killed in a car accident one hour after dropping Rebecca off from a family camping trip to the Adirondacks. Four years later, her father died of a heart attack while on vacation. So much loss at such a relatively young age.
She began to navigate life as a parentless only child and co-founded Modern Loss as a place to share the unspeakably taboo, unbelievably hilarious, and unexpectedly beautiful terrain of life after a death. With Modern Loss, Rebecca hopes to bring that refreshing openness to a broader audience, and community. Her wit can only be matched by her vibrance. She is a true leader in this space with the delicate way she can weave a jovial spirit into a scene of darkness.
Her two books:
Modern Loss Handbook: An Interactive Guide to Moving Through Grief and Building Your Resilience
Modern Loss: Candid Conversations about Grief
Episode Highlights:
Rebecca’s stories of loss
Traumatic sudden loss versus prolonged expected loss: how grief differs and brings different loads to carry
The loneliness of being an only child navigating loss
Psychotherapy, EMDR, talk therapy, medication and other means to support healing in grief and loss
What inspired her to write her books
Bracing yourself for “trigger days” or grief seasons
How she finds determination to find joyful moments and hope in everyday life