Episode 51: Working Through Your Grief with the Co-Founder of Modern Loss, Rebecca Soffer

Updated: 5 days ago

I’m joined by the Godmother of Grief, the Co-Founder of Modern Loss, writer, speaker, and big inspirer of SSFYL, Rebecca Soffer. When Rebecca was 30, her mother was killed in a car accident one hour after dropping Rebecca off from a family camping trip to the Adirondacks. Four years later, her father died of a heart attack while on vacation. So much loss at such a relatively young age.

She began to navigate life as a parentless only child and co-founded Modern Loss as a place to share the unspeakably taboo, unbelievably hilarious, and unexpectedly beautiful terrain of life after a death. With Modern Loss, Rebecca hopes to bring that refreshing openness to a broader audience, and community. Her wit can only be matched by her vibrance. She is a true leader in this space with the delicate way she can weave a jovial spirit into a scene of darkness.

Her two books:

Modern Loss Handbook: An Interactive Guide to Moving Through Grief and Building Your Resilience

Modern Loss: Candid Conversations about Grief

Episode Highlights:

  • Rebecca’s stories of loss

  • Traumatic sudden loss versus prolonged expected loss: how grief differs and brings different loads to carry

  • The loneliness of being an only child navigating loss

  • Psychotherapy, EMDR, talk therapy, medication and other means to support healing in grief and loss

  • What inspired her to write her books

  • Bracing yourself for “trigger days” or grief seasons

  • How she finds determination to find joyful moments and hope in everyday life